Healthy Sexuality
Healthiness might be the sexiest attribute in the world. God designed our sexuality so that people who are spiritually, physically, and emotionally healthy are unbelievably attractive at the deepest levels. While healthy people attract other healthy people, those that are unhealthy attract others who are unhealthy and that’s where God’s plan for our sexuality breaks down into selfishness, drama and abuse. But, people who are spiritually, emotionally and physically healthy are the kind of people that God wants involved in relationships. Their positive sexuality calls to others like them and leads to committed sexual relationships that result in healthy marriages, homes and ministries that honor God.
The following is a novice, incomplete list of ways to get/be/stay healthy inside and out. Some are more weighty than others. Some aren’t very profound. The whole list seems impossible to get right all the time, but it’s worth a try.
Physical Health – Outward Statement of Inner sense of Sexuality.
Your appearance tells a story about you…
- Shower everyday. Water is cheap. You look better and don’t stink.
- Don’t let your hair get that hot-buttered look. Keep it clean.
- Wear deoderant.
- Any clothes that reveal any cracks anywhere should be avoided.
- Guys, really, nobody wants to see your underwear. Ladies, the whaletail eliminates too much mystery. Mystery is good.
- Ladies, do you know what you do to men when you wear garments that have to stretch around something that has anything having to do with a curve? Help a guy out and be a little modest. Keeps you both healthy.
- Guys: know the difference between a date and a workout and dress accordingly.
Watch your mouth. The mouth is the gateway for indication of your physical, emotional, spiritual health.
- Brush your teeth at least twice a day. Nobody wants to smell your road-kill breath or look at those little gray sweaters on your teeth. If brushing doesn’t do the trick carry tick-tacks.
- Drink all the water you can! Hydration makes a lot of things better!
- Don’t put anything in your body that is illegal.
- Don’t drink alcohol if it makes you act stupid, if it’s unsafe, if you HAVE to have it, or if it’s illegal.
- Eat more vegetables and fruit than fat, starch and sugar.
Physical Activity
- Those ideal body weight charts are not a conspiracy or a cruel joke. You feel a lot better when you are within the ideal weight range.
- Get regular exercise. 30 minutes a day. If you like to eat a lot, you gotta exercise more. Exercise hurts and then makes you feel great.
- Have regular sleep patterns.
- Get outside. Get some fresh air and sunshine…Vitamin D from sunshine is a natural upper.
- Be classy. You don’t have to be brilliant or rich to have class.
- Don’t have sex or intimate contact with anyone that isn’t your spouse. No pre-marital romp is worth an STD. Some things are not good to share.
Emotional Health - Inward Reponse to Things That Happen
Some of emotional unhealthy is self-imposed, some is the result of other people:
Get rid of Baggage:
- If others have abused you in the past, do everything you can to work through it and overcome it.
- If people you trust are telling you that you’re screwed up, listen to them…and do something about it.
- Don’t subject yourself to pornography or masturbation…set unreasonable expectations that no one will ever live up to. Creates baggage!
Expand beyond yourself
- Do things that you’re afraid of, as long as they aren’t stupid.
- Read books, especially fiction. Imagination is healthy!
- Be informed…check out the news… being informed is interesting…being interesting is healthy…healthy is attractive
- Get your hands dirty: Help other people as much as possible, Do hard work. Keep a garden
- Do artistic stuff, even if it’s just listening to music.
- Challenge your brain with ideas, puzzles, concepts that are hard.
- Be part of a group of friends. Figure out how to fit in and get a long.
- Surround yourself with upbeat people. Don’t let yourself get jaded or cynical
- Don’t talk about yourself too much
Spiritual Health: Most important for life and healthy sexuality. It is the bridge between holy and hot romance.
Practice the Reality of God
- Immerse yourself in the story of the Bible. Knowing the story intimately will help you see where you fit.
- Be relentless in asking God to show you His purpose for you.
- Live as if Jesus is with you. (He is)
- Learn to be silent. Listen to/for God constantly.
- Have a Sabbath.
- Be undignified in worship.
Do what Gods says to do
- Be brave when it comes to following Him.
- Feed the hungry. Care for the sick. Visit the lonely. Defend the helpless…Nothing is clearer in the scriptures.
- Talk about God as if He’s the best thing that ever happened to you.
- Go to where people need God and represent Him.
Have Spiritual Relationships
- Join a small group.Allow yourself to laugh and cry with people.
- Learn to forgive
- Pray regularly with other people.
- Let other people more important than you.
- Be accountable to someone older and wiser in the faith.
- Don’t compromise your sexuality. Dedicate it to God and His plan.
After sharing this list at the Crossing yesterday, a couple people mentioned to me that this list of reminded them of a song from the early 2000’s called Everybody’s Free (to wear sunscreen) by Baz Luhrmann. Check out the video below:
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